The BEST core exercise to WOW your lady

Guys - if you REALLY want to make in impression on your lady, you're going to have to dig deep and push beyond your comfort zone. Here it is, THE exercise machine that will give you a core to make her swoon.

Feel the burn...

Apply to floor, 3 sets of 30 to 90 reps should get you results.
In all seriousness, I could write at length regarding the fact that an intense vacuum session burns far more calories and demands more of the core muscles than the typical gimmicky crunch and twist machine. I could go on about our misguided notion that extensive fitness equipment is required to get healthy or have sharp abs (it is not). It would be fun to explain how the ab machines and other various exercise gadgets are unnecessary at best and may possibly be hindering your progress.

But this post is not about that.

This is about her; your wife, girlfriend, significant other, what-have-you. If you truly want to get her attention, think less about your abs, biceps, and really anything that has to do with you. Concern yourself with serving her well.

[This is assuming you pass the low mark for basic hygiene and slobbishness. She definitely appreciates your health and your appearance!]


I'll concede that a firm mid-section may get a females attention for a while. But other things can do that. Not even sharp abs atone for a self absorbed fitness bro. Sooner or later, what you do with your body will reveal the truth.

I personally don't believe that a person can will themselves into transforming who they are. A well balanced, selfless (and fun!) man of integrity is the core of what others are attracted to. That, my brothers, requires infinitely more fortitude than your (typical) Team Hercules Chest Workout. And that is what we have been after all along.

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I don't have time to exercise

Are you overwhelmed by health and fitness information overload? Do those images of perspiring fit people beside a motivational quote actually help you? Or are they a shameful reminder of the fact that you're not in "the best shape of your life?"

There is one obvious point that many trainers, coaches, and others inside the fitness community fail to consider. You can't have it all.

The superfit guy or girl in the motivational image has a down-side. I can tell you with complete confidence why the vast majority of us fail to live up to our health and fitness potential.

First, the cold hard truth:

We fail to live up to our best because we simply don't want it enough. Or at one point in time we made a decision or were forced to neglect our own health. Some of the damage from years of living in this mode may be irreversible. Putting your own well being aside may indeed have been the more noble, selfless decision. But it was a decision nonetheless. And now you earn the wages of that decision.

If you truly want a more healthy and fit version of you, something of your everyday existence probably has to go. The blood-sweat-and-tears of exercise and healthy eating are easy compared to this process of cutting.

There's a reason for everything that we do. We find some kind of value in even the most useless, brain numbing activities that we return to. Even playing Candy Crush or watching Fail Army (I STUDY the Fail Army) offers some kind of value.

[Outside of Fail Army, I recommend time praying or being still outdoors, for all that's worth.]

Many neglect their own health for the sake of family and work demands. While there are certainly seasons when this may be legitimate, the spotless and organized house, the chronically quadrupled work schedule, and the must-see TV shows (or sporting events) are no excuse.  Surely you realize that serving your family and workplace well over the long haul will require you to be mentally and physically capable over the long haul.

Next, a gentler, equally important truth:

After facing the fact that while we may want to be the most healthy, fit version of ourselves, we don't want it more than other things. And quite honestly, maybe that's just fine.

You value taking extra time as a nurturing and available mother over taking extra time to look spectacular. You want to spend time developing your business. You'll get into a formal exercise program after finishing off the house projects. These are fine so long as you're active and health is intact.

On the brighter side, the road to accomplishment is wide. It isn't so much this precise nutrition plan or that specific workout routine that makes someone finally get their well being and fitness in order. It was the person being committed to rearranging what is important to them. A committed person who wants it will do what it takes to find the right training methods, coaching, and accountability, and they'll see results on just about ANY training and diet.

Identify what is most important in your life. Hint: your health should be absolutely is one of those things. If your employment involves written or oral communication or really any creative work, you should find out what your brain can accomplish on exercise!

Proactively create some space for your physical and mental health. Don't try to have it all.
And the guy or girl in the motivational poster with the chiseled physique? Find what good you can in it, knowing there are worse things than a soft midsection.


more than a PR

Last Friday I set a tuck jump personal record.

[A tuck jump is jumping off two legs over or onto something and landing on two legs.]

Here's a shot of me posing like people do with their trophy "buck," Grammy award, hole-in-one, or what have you.

After one failed attempt I put on the PR shirt and easily cleared 5 feet, 4 inches. Last year I barely made 5'2" after many fails. To celebrate this achievement, I'm NOT creating a top ten list of things that I can jump over ; )

I was pretty excited about this. It's not like I'm 18 or even 28. It would be a lie to say that my knees never ache. I sleep too little and have plenty of responsibility. I've missed more than a few precious training days over the summer. But over all I've been feeling great.

[The weekly schedule of two weight training days plus one sprint/plyometric day where I devise elaborate and ultra high-tech top secret training methods as outlined here is more than I can afford.]

If I can jump the stick, I don't feel the need to run a marathon or even a 5K. I have something to look forward to, train towards, and gauge. When I can jump the stick, I bring energy and enthusiasm to work and to the party. There's no need for concern over weight or triglycerides. I don't even need to spend hours driving and hours more to ski or seek thrills on the beloved mountain bike.

My wife says of the PR, "That's great but don't tie your identity to it." She knows that it's my passion and hobby to FUNCTION to my best ability and help others do the same. And she's right. Why did it never occur to me that strength, speed, endurance, or a big dead lift is something you own? Doesn't it make sense that taking heed be applied to physical attributes? Especially to physical attributes?

Of course the ship is going to sink! It will be relatively soon, when you think about it. For sure. Definitely. Like, not even a chance of continuous improvement. Most people seem to understand this and move on while others always want to improve. Everyone wants to look good. But quite honestly, I'm in it to DO stuff.

And so that's how your arrive at the place where you need to be told not to tie your identity to jumping over a stick in your front yard.
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My hope is that helping others to their new heights will be enough for me. That arthritis will one day render me brittle but not helpless. That the friendships forged along the way will carry us through.

That I'll use my limited time, interests, and abilities wisely to bless others however I'm able.

Oh how I love seeing you improve your PR. This sounds rather ridiculous in writing, but the people who work and train with me (I think) know this. Now there's something I can tie my identity to! 

Everything we own and achieve truly is like chasing after the wind. Some of our pursuits will be more meaningful or last longer than others. But everyone needs more than a PR.

"Take heed, for one’s life does not consist in the abundance of the things he possesses.” 
     -Luke 12:15